Mothers day can be a time of intense sadness. But because it is rightly a celebration, a time of thanks and appreciation for all that Mother’s do, the sadness is mostly suppressed and rarely expressed which can be unhealthy.
The day has become very commercial so it’s hard to watch TV, listen to the radio, or buy your groceries without being assaulted by beautiful tributes to Mothers, many people quietly suffer.
perhaps the pain is fresh, heart wrenching, and it’s hard not to cry. Or maybe it’s a pervasive sadness, a pang of remorse, or heartfelt wish that things had been different. Others celebrate in a way tinged with sadness as they also remember their loss. Sometimes if we suppress these feelings they can lead to anger, anxiety, or depression. Talking about them in counselling can help.
Perhaps you have lost your mother, partner, or a child. This intense grief can last many years. Many women find it hard to express their grief following a miscarriage. While those who have terminated a pregnancy, no matter how valid the reason, can suffer a complexity of emotional responses. Complex emotions also affect men.
When you want a child, but are unable to conceive, you come to terms with the situation and move on. But you still have to live with being childless, and the reasons, or repercussions. Perhaps you were sick, or stayed with a partner who didn’t support you to have children, then missed your chance. Maybe you set the love of your life free, so they could have children. Or someone you loved deeply left you because of infertility. Our lives are all different, but we are the same in needing to express our emotions appropriately. This can happen in counselling. You will be supported and the pain will lessen. Therapy can address anger, lessen anxiety and lift depression. So you can learn how to look after your emotions and move on with your life.
Have a great day celebrating the marvel of Motherhood and the joys of family life.